Baby Boomers Leading the Charge to Online Dating

Category: Singles and Retirement

March 23, 2016 — Although the quest for a suitable partner or companion is an age old quest, there are some new twists – the tools for finding that person. A study from the Pew Research Center found that the share of 55- to 64-year-olds who use online dating has doubled in just the past few years, from 6% in 2013 to 12% in 2015). And interestingly enough, it is us baby boomers, along with the youngest adults, who are leading the charge into online dating on sites like Match.com. About 15% of the total U.S. population reports having used used online dating. The youngest adults are more likely to have used mobile apps for dating or meeting people. Some dating sites have achieved a certain level of notoriety, such as Tinder and Ashley Madison.

As we boomers age there is more need for a dating solution. Gray divorce is increasing, spouses unfortunately die, and many people never got married in the first place. Now as online dating becomes more acceptable and familiar, many are turning to it. About 41% of all American adults say they know someone who uses online dating, while 29% report knowing someone who has met a significant other using this tool. College educated and more affluent people are more likely to know people who have used online dating. Both men and women tend to have similar attitudes about online dating.

Many good things, and a few not so greats about it
Most people who report using online dating have good things to say about it:
– A good and more efficient way to meet potential partners
– Allows them to find a better match, because they can meet more people

On the negative side, there are a few drawbacks
– Some people, particularly women, think it is potentially more dangerous
– Discourages people from settling down (too many choices!)
– A few people (16%) think online daters are desperate

Real experiences
The MarketWatch article listed below recants some interesting experiences of online daters. Topretirements knows some people who have tried online dating. Some have met permanent partners that were good matches. Others have tried it and given up, finding it more work than pleasure. And one woman friend of ours went on over 100 “dates”, making us wonder what that was all about. But in the end she found Mr. Right and ended up happy ever after.

Methodology
The Pew survey was conducted over the phone among 2,000 adults age 18 or over during the summer of 2015.

For further reading
Market Watch – What Baby Boomers Can Teach Millenials About Online Dating
Pew Research Center Dating Study

Comments? Have you used online dating services? If so, what was your experience like – and would you do it again? What dating sites did you like. Please share your thoughts in the Comments section below.



Posted by Admin on March 22nd, 2016

7 Comments »

  1. In 2007 I divorced. I began checking out different sites in 2008. Some of the sites I checked out were Seniorpeoplemeet.com, Plentyoffish.com, okcupid.com and Zoosk.com. My favorite site, and the one I kept going back to was Seniorpeoplemeet.com. 90% of the time it kept the younger people from playing games with you. Not always, but the majority of the time. I met at least 10-12 men on the site over a period of 4 years. I traveled to Arizona, Oregon and North Carolina to meet them, or visit. Never once did I fear for my life. My friends did, but I never felt threatened. During the getting to know each other time, you have plenty of time to figure out who they are. You can also get credentials if needed. I can’t say I didn’t get my heart broken a few times, but never felt threatened. My philosophy is that you can meet a man at the gym, a bar or church and still not know who he really is. You usually meet up with them quicker that way. During the” getting to know each other ” you can be honest of who you are because they don’t know who you are yet. You can share more about yourself. To this day, I am friends with several of the men I dated. But in 2012, I met the man of my dreams. We communicated for a month, sharing everything about ourselves in emails before speaking on the phone. We finally met a month later, and 4 years later, we are still together. He was married 34 years prior and I was married 31 years. I think meeting later in life, after the kids are grown and you have more time for yourselves, gives you a whole new perspective on life. Every minute counts. We discuss life more, we communicate more, we share our lives more. We both never knew happiness like this really existed. That it could be so complete.
    Online dating gives you the opportunity to narrow down the field to people who have the same goals, dreams, passions, lifestyles, religious believes, likes, dislikes, looks, etc. Also, if you are from a rural area, which I was, there is such a larger field to cultivate from. The world is your pallet. And if nothing else, it is a great way to get have a friend online. Someone to talk to during lonely times, unpleasant times, to listen to you. I recommend it to everyone who is single. Life is too short to not have a companion to share your life with. Loneliness kills.

    by Lizzy B — March 23, 2016

  2. I just got married 01/04/16 after meeting my husband on EHARMONY almost 9 years ago. We had an instant connection because the computer had done such a great job on matching us based on values, likes and dislikes. EHARMONY is work as you must answer pages of questions before you are matched. Matches were not made just based on looks, but on the answers provided.

    I had dates on Match and another site before trying EHARMONY, and I can say the men I was asked out by generally either barely or never read what I wrote. EHARMONY probably has a higher percentage of folks looking for a real relationship, as opposed to just getting lucky.

    Don’t dismiss it before investigating it. You might just meet the love of your life. I did

    by Barbara — March 23, 2016

  3. DH and I were both widowed in 2003, while we were both still in our 40’s. We met on a dating site for adults of the Catholic faith, therefore already having a lot in common. I don’t know if other faiths have specific sites, yet there may be other sites where singles can meet regarding most topics of commonality. We’ve been married for 9 years already! He is logical and real sensible. We are both very thankful and feel especially blessed about this second chance.

    by caps — March 23, 2016

  4. I’m glad to see that many people have been successful on dating sites. Unfortunately not so much for me. I tried plenty of fish, eharmony and match. I met several men but no second dates. I was very honest about being a little overweight but that did not stop inquiries or meetings. Not sure if it’s me, my location or what.

    by Ann — March 24, 2016

  5. I work with a man who was widowed several years ago, who has spent a lot of time on dating sites. In fact, he pulled out a huge binder of info that he uses to keep track of women he’s communicated with and met, with their profiles, notes of his communications with them and comments. (To be fair, he really is looking for another partner.) I thought his insights were interesting. I noticed all of the “five star” women in his binder looked a lot alike…and like his spouse. He claimed he hadn’t noticed that! He said that most of the profiles say the same thing. Everyone likes to laugh, take walks, etc. If someone says they like to hike, he said that he’d propose they pick a place to hike together. If they stumble on where to go, he concludes they’re faking it. His red flags are women who were bitter about ex husbands, the ones who are looking for someone to support or save them financially, and the “Moms” who immediately start telling him to change his life, his health care, his dietary habits, his clothes, etc.

    I checked out some sites at my kids’ encouragement. My profle is almost nonexistent (and says I’m just looking at the site). I haven’t upload a picture. I get lots of “matches” in my junk mail now, to induce me to buy a membership plan. It’s very interesting!

    by Kate — March 25, 2016

  6. In 2008 I met my future wife on chemistry.com. We emailed and exchanged phone calls for about one month before meeting at a restaurant for the first time. We dated for three years, were married in 2011, and couldn’t be happier.
    Dating “the old fashioned way” wasn’t working for me, so I stepped out of my comfort zone and gave online dating a try. I recommend only responding to profiles with a picture, be very honest about yourself and what you are looking for, have first meetings in public places, and make sure someone knows where you are going and who you are meeting. But most of all, have fun.

    by Betty — March 25, 2016

  7. I am a very young 77 and have been a widower for 6 years. I live in Queens, NY. I have belonged to various web sites I.e. Match.com, OurTime, JDate, Plenty of Fish, Zoosk, OKCupid and Over 70. In that time I have had 3 relationships ranging in time from 6 moths to 2 1/2 years. I have sent and received about the same amount of responses from all sites. I received less responses on Match but more there were positive. I find that most women post pictures of themselves that are at least 3 years old (even though I specify they need a current picture. Many of the woman lie about their age. I also find that a lot of the women don’t really bother to read my profile where I say I have 2 cats so they shouldn’t respond if they are allergic. I spent 1/2 an hour on the phone with someone yesterday only fo find out that she is allergic. I am turned off by the women who say a man must have a high income to get their interest. First of all I can put down anything and they would never know, second I am not looking to be anyone’s sugar daddy. Unfortunately there aren’t any viable venues for a man my age to meet a women. My advice is if you are new to dating sites join as many as you can afford then start to eliminate them based on results. You will find that many of your parameters (distance, race, etc,) are ignored by the sites and they recommend women that live too far away from me. In 6 years I have only met 1 woman that I fell in love with (that happened the first week I joined a site. Most of all be patient and stick to the requirements that you want in a partner.

    by Norm — March 26, 2016

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