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 Posted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 1:14 pm Post subject: How close is too close |
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My daughter is urging my husband and i to buy the house 2 doors down from them in Atlanta. We currently live in Minneapolis and were looking for a retirment place somewhere in Georgia or northern Florida. Although we would love to be near our 3 young grandchildren, we are not that anxious to be next door! Anyone have any suggestions?
Muddled in Minnesota |
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youngatheart
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| Posted: Wed Nov 22, 2006 8:01 pm Post subject: Muddled |
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Dear Muddled,
Congratulations to you for giving this issue some serious thought before you act!
My vote would be to follow your instincts, first and foremost. if you are happy with the arrangements, so will your children and grandchildren. Pick the distance away that feels right for you and the result will probably be better than choosing a solution that is imposed on you. Better to start off a bit too distant and move closer than to have an ugly situation develop.
Hope that helps, and good luck to you. |
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Boomer1
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| Posted: Mon Dec 18, 2006 10:32 pm Post subject: how close is too close |
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This sounds like really good advice to me. The only additional thing i could suggest is that you plan a really long visit - either staying in their house, a hotel, or renting - and then step back and evaluate how that went. If it left you thirsty, keep drinking. If not, plan accordingly.
Best of luck - you have your priorities straight! |
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jfb48
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| Posted: Tue Dec 26, 2006 10:45 pm Post subject: how close is too close |
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| I don't know if i completely agree with this advice. If the kids really want you near and they need the help, how can you refuse. At least I remember how nice it might have been if the 'rents had been nearby to help when the kids were small. Maybe i would have been a better parent! |
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youngatheart
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| Posted: Thu Jan 18, 2007 8:41 pm Post subject: Dont move that close |
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| Don't do it. Sounds like you have reservations now. That is your gut instinct talking to you. Listen! |
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luvkeywest
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| Posted: Tue Nov 13, 2007 1:21 am Post subject: it all depends |
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| Ultimately it's your decision. For me a factor would be how much do the kids need you. If the parents are both working, there is a serious health or developmental issue, or even if it comes down to money - you might want to tilt in favor of answering a call to help. If the invitation was merely being polite, or if you know you will all get on one another's nerves, you will know what to do. |
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readytoplay
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| There was a very interesting article recently about some new developments that include an active adult community within a mixed generation development. A family was profiled in USA Today which lived in one such development in DeLand, FL called Victoria Gardens http://www.topretirements.com/reviews/Florida/DeLand/Victoria_Park.html. This seems like an ideal solution to the problem you face - being close but not too close. You also get to live in an active adult community, if that is what you want. |
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