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PostPosted: Mon May 21, 2007 9:23 pm    Post subject: Elderly Relative -Helping the Move to a Retirement Community Reply with quote

This is the thread to discuss your experiences, tips, and war stories with the extremely complicated subject of how to persuade an elderly parent, relative, or friend that it might be time to move to some type of new community. Whether that might be a retirement home, independent living facility, assisted living, CCRC (Continuing Care Retirement Community) nursing home, or the home of a son or daughter - the process is difficult.

See the article on this subject in our Tips and Picks section:
http://www.topretirements.com/tips/Eldercare/How_to_Persuade_Your_Elderly_Relative_It_Might_Be_Time_to_Move.html
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PostPosted: Tue May 22, 2007 9:39 pm    Post subject: It's not your decision Reply with quote

I hear so many people talking about this issue and it sometimes it's hard for me to take the "me" out of the conversation. In other words, some of us "children" (in our 50's and 60's) think we should decide where the parents want to live, because we know best (not Father!). But the bottom line is unless the parent is certifiably senile or a proven menace, it's their life. Awfully hard to accept when you hear the horror stories, but they have a right to live where they want to be.
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PostPosted: Thu Sep 27, 2007 6:31 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I agree, it's not your decision. But what i find harder is deciding what i would do - in my own situation. When would i be willing to move out of my beautiful home into an apartment with a lot of old people? Probably a long time from now! At least the wife and I can work on a plan for what circumstances would force us to kick our movement plan into gear. For example, a major health change, a certain age, distance and capabilities of our children? Realistically, i don't really expect that my children will have the time or inclination to help on a basis sufficiently frequent to keep me living indepently.
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PostPosted: Mon May 12, 2008 12:04 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

My advice is don't be too eager to move your elder, particularly if it is far away from where they live now. We just had some experience with this and there were some unpleasant lessons learned. 1, the elder was very disoriented by all the change - takes a lot of time to get back to normal. 2, th e family caregivers underestimated the stress and time they would be under/have to give to make this work.

Moving an elder is a VERY big deal! Good luck
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PostPosted: Tue Dec 20, 2011 12:42 pm    Post subject: Senior communities Reply with quote

I think it's difficult to choose,because at this moment I think I wont want to say goodbye to my loving home ever,but who could say that at 60, my decision would not change?
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PostPosted: Thu Dec 29, 2011 6:26 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Very true, its a difficult situation in life, moving from our long cherished place to an assisted living facility or similar types is painful. But if situation demands, then hobson's choice. Above all, its a personal right where to live.

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http://www.heritagehillsenior.com
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