Sometimes the Greatest Satisfaction in Retirement Comes from the Little Things
Category: Baby Boomer Retirement Issues
January 10, 2015 — A lot of people have big plans for the exciting things they are going to do when they retire. Undoubtedly many of these will be memorable experiences and a source of pleasure. Now a new study puts a different perspective on that pursuit. The study looks at the kinds of experiences – ordinary vs. extraordinary – that create the most long term happiness. The biggest finding was this – as we age we tend to get just as much satisfaction from ordinary experiences as we do those extraordinary ones.
The study was published in the Journal of Consumer Research, “Happiness from Ordinary and Extraordinary Experiences“. Using analysis from Facebook posts, the authors of the study found some some surprising answers. It also mentioned earlier research that shows that experiences provide people with much more happiness than material possessions.
Comments on "Sometimes the Greatest Satisfaction in Retirement Comes from the Little Things"
Jan Cullinane says:
My little pleasure? It's playing tennis, both socially and on leagues. I started it in my late 40s, and I love the physical aspect, the social aspect, and the mental aspect.
Enjoyed the column.
Jan Cullinane, author, The Single Woman's Guide to Retirement
buddy says:
Most unusual research! Its scholarly approaches and methods are for studious community to digest, but for most of this blog audiences its premises and conclusions are sure worth exploring indeed. In theory, one's age profoundly influences their judgment on daily experience, be it ordinary or extraordinary, and thus one's meaning of happiness differs accordingly: "younger people tend to de?ne happiness in terms of excitement, enthusiasm, and high states of arousal, while older people de?ne happiness in terms of calm, peacefulness, and low states of arousal". Well, that explains why when we were younger we tended to move around places, and yet as we're getting mature we like to settle down in one peaceful place, doesn't it? And what is the conclusion? "A happy life includes both the extraordinary and the ordinary, and the central question is not only which [experiences], but when [at younger or older age]." Notice these words above, "both", "which" and "when" that constitute a happy life.
There you go, folks, YOLO (You Only Live Once)---it's not only to invoke extraordinary experiences that make you happy, but also to savor your ordinary things in life to make you fully content. Remember YOBADO, too! (You Only Born And Die Once). So cheers! :-)
kathy says:
I always tried to give my children the opportunities to experience the extraordinary but to appreciate all the small daily
things mentioned . Friends, art music nature and of course pets. Many small ordinary things to find to enjoy. I don't think you have to wait until you are older. Some people never learn to appreciate......
ella says:
I'm with you, kathy. The sunrises and sunsets. A walk with a friend. Even a favorite piece of music played on the radio - a wonderful surprise! So much to enjoy and be grateful for.
Vic says:
getting more social, family n friends, quiet relaxation ( reading, tv, music, enjoying the critters in the back yard). We still have osome exciting big trips on our wish list but a ride in the car just seems just as good nowadays. Also eating foods I would never try before and actually liking them. Think as we get more time to our selves we like to cook and enjoy spending time on the deck
Relaxing. I'm looking forward to a relaxed
Stress free semi retirement. ????
Vicki says:
I agree completely. Where we live now we do not have friends. People here are all working or running their kids all over and while we have lived in several different cities in the 40+ years of our marriage we have never had this experience before.
So we are now retired and the one major item on our list is finding a community. We are looking in the Carolinas, Alabama, Florida. We have cold winters here and hot summers and will likely only be living in the retirement area for 9 months of the year. We want people who have time for lunch, golf, playing cards, sitting on the porch and just talking but we need that social contact and miss it terribly.
So, all of you out there, tell us where we need to live!
Vicki
Vickie says:
To Vicki, We just closed on our home in December. Trilogy of Orlando in Groveland, FL. After a lot of thinking and looking this is the best fit for us. This 55 + community is reasonably priced and is located 25 mi north of Disney, We are currently....... I guess you would call it a transition period.. Currently my husband has 2 more years before retirement and I just started collecting SS. So far it is working the way we expected. Not moving everything at once and slowing furnishing the new home. Our kids will be taking most of the furniture we have here. Our kids and grandkids are looking forward to visiting us and actually we leave this Friday to go down for 10 days. Our daughter and her family going back with us in March for spring break and Lego land, So far so good and as far as friends and activities Trilogy has lots. We initially attended a retirement class through my husbands work and this is what opened our eyes regarding where to live, taxes, and planning. Thought about NC, GA, TN and FL. Florida seem to fit and we are excited about our future. Currently live in Maryland. Not a retirement tax friendly state. Yes it will be tough leaving kids and grandkids but we think everyone will adjust. As you said I don't see my neighbors very much and our children are busy with jobs, school, kids and schedules. I don't want my children or grandchildren to worry about us in our later years. I want them to visit and have fun. Plus we will be returning home for them when needed.
As far as health we will deal with that when the time comes. With Gods grace.
Vickie in Maryland
John H says:
Excellent article. In many ways, less is more.
Jan Pairsh says:
When my husband and I retired, we moved to Lucca, Italy. We love to travel when it fits into our budget but the greatest joys are being with friends, working in the garden, spending time with each other. Enjoying the small things in life that make it so very wonderful.
We also love when family and friends come from the states to visit.
In my case more is not more
Jan
Brickhorse says:
This is great validation for what I've known would be my life choices in retirement. I'm living a Small Life now, and it's a sustainable lifestyle for retirement because the costs will be approximately what I'm currently spending. Of course I'll have to make some adjustments, and I will downsize my home by choice, but the day-to-day will be consistent with what it is now: a life that embraces the amazing ordinary joys of living. A key to my success: shopping is not one of my hobbies.
JCarol says:
Excellent food for thought, as is the NY Times source article in your link.
The closer we get to retirement, the more my husband and I consider, reconsider, plan and revise those plans. Perhaps we are ignoring the ordinary in favor of grander schemes. When I consider our temperaments and what we love, it's obvious that the ordinary will likely bring us far more pleasure than the extraordinary.
It seems he and I would be wise to re-prioritize some of our plans, placing more resources and emphasis on simple, everyday pleasures.
ella says:
JCarol,
I find i, too, enjoy the simple everyday moments and events more than the larger, grandiose schemes. That's why i want to have much of what i love around me, or at least near by, upon retiring.
Louise says:
Speaking of little enjoyable things. Here is an old radio story called: Three Skeleton Key. It is an interesting story where Vincent Price plays the main character. https://archive.org/details/ThreeSkeletonKey
March 17, 1950 Escape version of Three Skeleton Key. Stars Vincent Price. Considered by many to be the best performance of this story.
Just click on the arrow at the top where the 'static line' appears. The audio should start playing. I listened to this story this morning. I loved it! This was the main entertainment before TV took off. In certain ways better than TV because you can use your own imagination and that sometimes is scarier! Hope you enjoy!